So, my ex-wife has had anger, depression, and general mental issues her whole life. But this Covid-19 pandemic has tipped her straight into the abyss of self-pity, vitriolic anger, and general despondency.
I present the following series of text messages for twofold reasons: a) I am tired of being her whipping boy since it’s been nearly a decade after our break-up and b) I wanted to present what dealing with this virus has done to people who are already dealing with significant mental issues.
*****WARNING – THE FOLLOWING IS DEEPLY DISTURBING*****
2020-03-23 21:23:07 Received
So please tell me that you’re parents are home safe because I have talked to both kids and neither of them can tell me!
2020-03-23 21:29:24 Sent
They are still away and are just as safe where they are as they would be here.
2020-03-23 21:31:58 Received
Ok well I don’t agree and they better have the best travel insurance in the world right now…and who’s buying their groceries while they shelter in place?! Or they better have figured out how to order online with delivery to their door
2020-03-23 21:33:23 Sent
Well it’s really none of your business is it?
2020-03-23 21:34:20 Sent
This is precisely why I asked about my passport so not sure about the feigned concern
2020-03-23 21:35:09 Received
I still love them and they are my kids grandparents so yes it bloody well is my business!! Goddammit Blair have you bothered to ask how my Mom’s doing?!
2020-03-23 21:37:06 Sent
Considering I had to find out about your Dad by accident I don’t bother prying.
2020-03-23 21:38:52 Received
I sent you a bloody picture you only had to ask and I thought the kids kept you a little more in the loop than they apparently do…and that’s totally your problem and your fault not mine
2020-03-23 21:42:13 Received
And my Mom was an idiot and went on a trip to Toronto two weeks ago and I convinced her to come home early yesterday although I would rather have had her stay there and now she’s on Self-isolation for 14 days
2020-03-23 21:46:09 Received
And now I am symptomatic and got tested today because I have been in the front lines of a hospital checking in every patient in the Valley with fever, cough and needing an X-ray to rule out pneumonia! Thanks so much for making me do this shit job. Bet you hope I die
2020-03-23 21:47:33 Received
If I die it’s all your fault Blair
2020-03-23 21:49:01 Received
Though I really think I will live because it’s early days and they haven’t run out of ventilators yet
2020-03-23 21:49:58 Received
And I want to live just to piss you off you dick
2020-03-23 21:51:31 Received
Now back to reality and my original purpose of contacting you… tell your parents to come home NOW
2020-03-23 21:53:56 Received
The USA is going to turn into something worse than Italy…have you been watching Italy?!
2020-03-23 21:58:09 Received
So anyways I tried. I care. Tell them from me to please PLEASE come home!
2020-03-23 22:02:25 Received
Please don’t die Blair…you’re the asshole who picked a Life Insurance Annuity when you turn 60 and I still want to have FMEP garnish that in 2026
2020-03-23 22:02:51 Received
Cheers
2020-03-23 22:06:37 Received
No reply?! Ok fine with me… I finally get the last work you asshole
2020-03-23 22:07:04 Received
The last word
2020-03-23 22:17:26 Received
Goodnight
2020-03-23 22:18:00 Received
Sweetie dreams Blair
2020-03-23 22:22:47 Received
I sleep with a clear conscious….do you actually sleep at knowing how you have treated me!?! I was a good wife to you and I Dad didn’t deserved the scorn and disrespect you have showed me! I’m a good woman still doing the right thing every day! I deserve respect from you and more importantly I respect myself!!!
2020-03-23 22:25:28 Received
So sleep well Blair.,. I will haunt your integrity forever…you can never look in a mirror again because you screwed me and I bloody well didn’t deserve it!
(I try to keep my interactions with my ex to a minimum as she inevitably blows up my cell phone with her ranting. The only reason I don’t outright block her is on the off chance there’s an emergency with the kids.)
2020-04-03 19:09:11 Sent
So, dead yet? Been 2 weeks and doesn’t look like we’re like Italy yet. Same with the States. But you’re used to being a lying drama Queen.
(Yep, I got snarky here as the situation in Canada didn’t turn into an Italy and I’m tired of her pity parties blaming me for her horrible life.)
2020-05-27 23:36:17 Received
So I guess you don’t need your Passport much anymore 😂
2020-05-27 23:39:24 Received
Going to give me a lump-sum soon and get rid of this FMEP nonsense once and for all or not?!? Your call and don’t blame me for being a bitch if I garnish your Annuity at 60 if you live through Covid-19
2020-05-27 23:39:35 Received
Asshole
2020-05-27 23:43:36 Received
Only 6 years and less than 5 months to go but who’s counting in this purgatory?!? I AM dick-smack
2020-05-27 23:48:45 Received
But logically who’s going to get Covid-19 first? You who lives in Rural MB apparently living off your GF Jackie or me who’s been forced by you to work full-time in the front-line of a hospital???
2020-05-27 23:49:50 Received
If I die first I will send my last text to our kids blaming you for my death Blair Gilmore
2020-05-27 23:50:47 Received
And you can look in the mirror and ask yourself if you did right by me…. I already know the answer
2020-05-27 23:53:38 Received
I loved you Blair and spent the best years of life trying to earn the love and respect that you never gave new. I was not perfect but I stuck with you through thick and thin and you should have a as appreciated me more even if you never meant your vows
2020-05-27 23:54:32 Received
I meant my vows on our wedding day…why did you think you could opt out?
2020-05-28 00:07:25 Received
I leaned on you when I was in labour with both our kids and you were my rock and my everything and gave you magnificent babies!!! And you didn’t appreciate that?!?!?!?!?
2020-05-28 00:13:25 Received
And I raised them through thick and thin and you gave us a lot of thin and yet I protected our kids from most of it…and you still don’t appreciate what I did Blair?!?
2020-05-28 00:19:05 Received
Ran into *Mary Smith* (name redacted by me) recently don’t ask how. It was awkward and neither of us said anything…she deserved better too I think. Maybe *Joan* (name redacted) has low enough expectations or standards and I hope you and her have a “mediocre” relationship… at least you have someone to keep you warm on those cold Manitoba nights. I don’t because I have standards
2020-06-07 20:07:59 Received
So lump sum soon so I can relocate to Saskatchewan?!?
2020-06-07 20:09:14 Sent
Nope
2020-06-07 20:10:57 Received
Do you think I would have left the Prairies if I knew a Pandemic was coming?!?
2020-06-07 20:11:52 Received
Nope because you are a loser and broke or just cause you hate me almost as much as I hate you?
2020-06-07 20:12:36 Received
Come on answer your phone… I feel like playing
2020-06-07 20:13:05 Sent
Blocked
(Occasionally, I get tired of her BS and I block her number for a period of time. You’ll notice she felt like getting into it with her ‘playing’ comment.)
2020-06-16 00:11:27 Received
So now you get to deal with the consequences of treating the Mother of your children like shit all these years because I got blind drunk last Friday evening after a PARTICULARLY trying week that even my Boss admitted to me today was messed up….so I said a bunch of shit I shouldn’t have a that I regret but you can’t see unless you have taken over your Dad’s FB profile which is not that weird considering how smart you are Blair Gilmore
2020-06-16 00:17:37 Received
So now I am in a mess with our kids and I take full ownership of drinking too much and posting too much on FB and you can take me to Court anytime you want but I know for a fact that you survive on the Goodwill of Bar 7 Farms under the table and your current GF Jackie. I really wish you had given us the chance to live life together without the pressures of kids…we were just JUST becoming empty-nesters when you gave up WHY?!?!?
2020-06-16 00:21:05 Received
I was a really high-functioning Military Wife with a life of my own and plans for a heavily subsidized Masters degree in Leadership online from Royal Roads University and dreams of high-level positions in Health-Care Management
2020-06-16 00:25:32 Received
But nope you killed all my dreams and treated me like shit throughout this scorched earth Divorce and somehow expected me to not hit complete utter exhaustion and bitterness and anger and despair because I really know that you don’t give a shit. Except now that I am completely used up and bitter and hopeless you forget or didn’t give a shit about how this wasted life of mine would impact our kids and Grandchildren
2020-06-16 00:27:06 Received
I remember screaming at you late in 2011 after you forced me out of your life that “Just remember I am the Mother of your Children “.
2020-06-16 00:34:23 Received
I take 85% of the responsibility of why I am a train wreck today and I give the other 15% blame to you. Either way it doesn’t matter…just live with the train wreck that you helped create because dammit I tried to make this Divorce reasonable and you just “didn’t feel like dealing with it” in December 2014 and I will go to my grave hating you for not having compassion when I begged you to help me and sort out a resolution. So the resolution in 2020 is now $50,000.00 lump sum and FMEP goes away… FINAL OFFER
2020-06-16 00:42:48 Received
I beg you for one last time give me a chance at a life and I will set you free from FMEP and you can have a chance at a life not in Purgatory too
2020-07-01 00:01:19 Received
What was that quote your friend posted on FB a few years ago? “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”. When are you just going to stop being such a dick and start trying to make this divorce better for the sake of our kids and grandchildren?!?
2020-07-01 00:05:05 Received
I would like to be able to be in the same room as you when both our kids eventually get the chance to throw a wedding. Now start trying harder to meet me in the middle and play nice in the sandbox please
2020-07-01 06:59:06 Sent
Oh always the toxic drama queen, nobody including the kids are fooled by your lies anymore.
2020-07-02 03:35:11 Received
Are you really so far gone that you think that I would EVER lie to our children Blair? Especially now since they are adults?!? Stop being so stupid you are smarter and better than this crap…
2020-07-02 03:46:56 Received
Grow up or wake up or have a day of reckoning preferably NOW instead of on your deathbed next Winter in the second wave or if you are lucky enough when you are 85…I just hope that sometime before you die you actually have some insight please deal lord
2020-07-02 03:58:18 Received
You should be thankful that I have not lied to our kids but mostly have cared about them to withhold the truth Blair
2020-07-02 03:59:14 Received
Now leave me alone because apparently you are nuts
2020-07-02 06:53:20 Sent
Have you ever wondered why no one including the kids likes or can even stand to be around you? Everyone sees right through you. I can send one text but you need to send multiple messages because you’re empty inside.
2020-07-05 02:02:24 Received
Stop throwing stones Blair. I loved you and meant my vows to you when we go married. It broke my heart when you ended it on August 20, 2011. My heart almost broke in half when I divorced you on May 20, 2016. We share children and grandchildren so let’s figure out a way to find peace for the sake of our family
2020-07-05 10:20:35 Sent I’ll find peace with you when you call off your dogs. I would even seriously consider giving you a payout.
(So here’s the glimpse of the rational woman who pops out rarely. Rationality quickly gets the boot.)
2020-07-07 17:58:55 Received
Let me know your next move and I will contact my FMEP Case Manager here in BC. I am not allowed to contact Manitoba FMEP directly myself…yeesh
2020-07-07 18:04:47 Sent
Call off your dogs and I will consider a payout. That means ceasing enforcement. You put it on. You take it off.
2020-07-07 18:33:42 Received
You gave me NO CHOICE to put it on Blair. I was gob-smacked that you tried to bully me so hard that you thought I would cave. You would think that after an Interim, Final, Divorce and Garnishment Court Order you would have realized that meant business!! Let’s get the FMEP to do most or ALL of the work for FREE…otherwise we’re both going have to lawyer-up again and my last lawyer was $350.00/hr how about yours? Because doing it you way would make the lump-sum taxable and that’s just plain stupid. Check your ego at the door for once and use your brains Blair!! It’s a big reason why I fell in love with you in the first place! What the hell is wrong with you?!? If you truly wanted to end this scorched-earth divorce which is now scorching our kids and grandchildren you would do it the SMART way….I’m tired of you dangling a lump-sum once and awhile in my face. Because it’s the only trump card you have left isn’t it?!? Well the window of opportunity to play that card is closing fast so your turn is now once and for all…or never. I know that I have tried so many times to find a resolution to this sick game you’re playing. I only have 6 years and less than 3 months before FMEP starts to garnishee your crappy Pension Annuity so from any sane perspective I hold all the cards. You have two weeks to give me a decision. Goodnight
2020-07-07 18:36:42 Sent
Go fuck yourself you crazy bitch, I don’t need 2 weeks for that.
2020-07-07 18:37:33 Sent
Tell you what, that’s a real easy decision to just tell you to fuck off.
2020-07-07 18:38:42 Sent
Have fun with my little GST checks, don’t spend it all at once.
2020-07-07 18:44:35 Received
Well considering that my GST cheque’s are still going to my bankruptcy trustee 18 months after discharge and because of Covid 19 delays I may or may not finally get it in October I most DEFINITELY will enjoy yours 😂
2020-07-07 18:46:31 Received
So should I show this conversation to our kids so that they can figure out who’s reasonable, rational and calm and who’s crazy Blair???
2020-07-07 18:48:42 Received
Tell you what… I will give you until August 20, 2020 to grow a rational brain to give me an adult response Okay?
2020-07-07 18:52:49 Sent
Nope, you can go fuck yourself since you won’t turn off Maintenance. The kids know who the fucked up bitch is so don’t bother with your empty threats
2020-07-07 18:53:39 Sent
Have fun at work bitch!
(The ex knows full well that Family Maintenance isn’t into ‘making deals’. Their purpose is to enforce court orders for the full amount so any sort of side deal she wants to make with me doesn’t matter a bit to them. The significance of the date is when we broke up in 2011.)
2020-07-09 20:22:50 Received
Grow up and grow a pair Blair Gilmore and you get to figure out how both of us get to be in the room when both of our kids eventually have the time and money to have the weddings they want and we couldn’t give them…I’m done trying to bury the hatchet with you and meet in the middle because there seems to be no middle with you
2020-07-09 20:26:19 Received
And you have blinders on like six Court losses doesn’t matter and you still seem to think that you get to call the terms of this Divorce…call me when you hire a lawyer to seriously negotiate a lump-sum settlement with FMEP because I will never contact you again otherwise.
2020-07-09 20:27:50 Received
And do it for our kids and grandchildren you selfish fuck…
2020-07-09 20:29:36 Received
Because I sure as shit have long ago stopped hoping you would do it out of respect for me…about the time I did the paperwork for FMEP in January of 2016
2020-07-09 20:37:29 Received
Call off the hounds?!? You have the power to do that every day so grown a pair and do it yourself. Trust me I don’t even care enough about your opinion to even rub your nose in the dirt. You have Control Mr Gilmore…bad ugly nasty Divorce or mature logical divorce that loves our kids and grandchildren?!? You choose
2020-07-09 20:43:52 Received
I am consciously giving you that power because you seem to demand that in our sad and problematic negotiations…you have all the guts then you get all the glory Blair. You figure it out finally then I will let you be the hero because you always had the ego and I never did
2020-07-09 20:44:13 Received
TRUTH
2020-07-09 20:45:27 Received
Be the hero and saviour of our family Blair…I dare you!!!!!!!!!
2020-07-09 20:45:51 Received
Be a MAN
2020-07-09 20:47:03 Received
An actual grownup MAN who cares for his kids and grandchildren MORE than his own EGO
2020-07-09 20:52:22 Received
Rant over. I am DONE
2020-07-09 21:03:20 Received
And just because I am a wee bit human…can I just say once and for all…FUCK YOU Blair Dwayne Gilmore!!! I gave much MUCH more than I got and if the second wave of Covid 19 kills me your paltry GST credit gives me enough extra money to get a current Will in place so at least our kids don’t get to deal with a Mom who’s Intestate
2020-07-09 21:04:52 Received
Asshole
2020-07-09 21:05:00 Received
Prick
2020-07-09 21:05:43 Received
Dick-smack
2020-07-09 21:08:26 Received
Go punch another cow tomorrow…I get up tomorrow to do a thankless job every day but get thanked by total stranger every day which Goddamit makes me go do my jobs tomorrow
2020-07-09 21:09:57 Received
Because my job actually matters during a Pandemic huh
2020-07-10 07:26:37 Sent
Such a bitter old crone, I hope you live a long long life and stew forever in that crazy head of yours all alone because everyone hates you.
2020-07-15 23:27:21 Received
Oh really EVERYONE??? How about words like “always” and “never”? You had almost 4 years to negotiate with ME including when I gave into all your terms in December 2014 but you “didn’t feel like dealing with this right now”. So then you’re surprised when 4 months later I retained a put-bull lawyer and hauled our Case into BC Supreme Family Court 4 more times and then opened a file with FMEP to enforce the multiple Court Orders?!? What the hell did you think I would do Blair? Go quietly? You should have realized that the shitty life you gave me for 23 years at least toughened me up. So grow a pair if you can at this point and offer a lump-sum settlement to FMEP and if it’s a reasonably good offer FMEP will gladly accept with my approval and happily close the File forever and you might get to have a credit rating and a Passport and even get to keep a Driver’s License and be a big boy again.
2020-07-15 23:30:30 Received
I’m trying to move on from this scorched-earth divorce because it’s starting to scorch our kids and grandchildren so stop being a narcissistic jerk and DO THE RIGHT THING FOR ONCE
2020-07-15 23:55:12 Received
9 years ago I was in Penhold trying to help you from a distance deal with getting unfairly tosses out of Phase 3 of your flight training in Southport. Your Wings were actually on display before I left for Penhold I saw them… you were so damn close to your Dream you could taste it!!! Did I falter or give up on you that summer when you got screwed?!?!? Did I love you any less or stop wanting to be your wife Blair?!? I DID NOT. I LOVED YOU BLAIR FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE and the previous 23 years of our marriage should have made you appreciate that!!! Why did you throw me away then??? Did you think you could find someone better?!? Because you never have…is *Joan* your 4th girlfriend since 2011??? Are you going to put a ring on this one?
2020-07-15 23:59:31 Received
A part of me will ALWAYS love you Blair Gilmore how could it be otherwise?!? We basically grew up together and share two kids together and now two grandchildren
2020-07-16 00:00:24 Received
Make the deal. Bury the hatchet and let’s move on
2020-07-16 00:08:40 Received
So stop being the truly bitter one locked into an untenable position and give FMEP a legitimate offer so you can move forward with your life and offer *Joan* what she deserves if she’s the one you want to end your life with… I wish you both the best
2020-07-16 00:11:25 Received
Reality check Blair…. there’s a Pandemic sweeping the World and so far Canada is doing really good but there’s no guarantees…I personally would like to settle this divorce once and for all before the second wave comes this Fall and Winter
2020-07-16 00:18:23 Received
And if I die before you I want it on record that it’s YOUR FAULT because by now I should have a Masters Degree in Leadership and Adult Education and I should be teaching virtual classes this Fall making double my current salary instead of being a front-line Registration Clerk in Medical Imaging at Comox Valley Hospital and begging you to end this shitshow because I for one am truly exhausted
2020-07-16 00:22:32 Received
I was exhausted in December 2014 but you didn’t give a shit then….so I am not going to hold my breath now waiting for you to change your spots now but yet I still am trying to challenge you to do so…NOT FOR ME BUT FOR OUR KIDS AND GRANDKIDS OK?
2020-07-16 00:26:57 Received
Are you remotely capable of seeing the bigger picture EVER Blair?!?!??!????
2020-07-16 00:31:55 Received
When I said that we grew up together I really meant that I grew up and tried to be the best co-dependant wife you worked in peeler bars and biked to work on a bicycle for a year when we only had Betsy to get you to work… you should be ASHAMED OF WHAT YOU MADE YOUR WIFE DO
2020-07-16 00:33:28 Received
And you never ever EVER said thank-you or sorry in the end and I damn well deserved MUCH BETTER THAN I GOT
2020-07-16 00:39:17 Received
I really don’t give a flying fuck is “everyone” in your family hates me I know you really tried and who was the asshole so judge me all you want Blair Gilmore your opinion doesn’t matter to me in the least
2020-07-16 00:39:21 Received
Goodnight
2020-07-16 00:42:07 Received
I really tried not you…you always cared about you before me and before our kids and now if you don’t settle with FMEP you really don’t care about our grandchildren either…
2020-07-16 00:42:40 Received
You have Control
2020-07-16 00:45:07 Received
So be a grown up Man and sort this shitshow out for good
2020-07-16 00:51:45 Received
Nobody on this Planet understands what happened to you you in the summer of 2011 more than me Blair. I forgive you for going slightly nuts but now you get to sort out the mess that you created and give me a lump-sum settlement so I can finally stop being in survival mode and rebuild my life without you and know that I always wanted to live a life with you because I meant my vows “for better or for worse” but that didn’t seem to count with you
2020-07-16 00:57:35 Received
You chased me to Kingston in 1987… I was already having the best summer of my life dating a Captain and an Ocdt an a MCpl at the same time…yet at the end of that Summer I was wearing YOUR ring…tell me now to not be bitter and wonder why I made the wrong choice Blair?!?!?
2020-07-16 01:02:14 Received
Oh and then the Sgt I fucked for a solid week the summer before drove 500 miles out of his way to land at my door when the Captain I was dating was already there and things got really interesting at that point…do you not realize that I had really good men fighting to date me when I met you Blair and I chose YOU???????!!!!!
2020-07-16 01:03:16 Received
Now tell me that I am a bitter old woman and take the blame you dick
2020-07-16 01:06:05 Received
Do I really care if you hate your life? Nope because you ruined any chance of my life being anything other than a fucking front-line Clerk thank
2020-07-16 01:06:15 Received
Thanks Blair
2020-07-16 01:12:33 Received
Now I am NEVER going to text you again after this unless I hear from FMEP that you want to finally settle this Divorce with a lump-sum offer of $70,000.00 because the price just went back up from $50,000.00 because you missed that window of opportunity
2020-07-16 01:14:11 Received
And seriously what do I really care? You are never serious anyways about this so why should I be?!?!?!?
2020-07-16 01:16:55 Received
So I will garnish your Pension in 6 years and 3 months and maybe only have work a part-time position after that
2020-07-16 01:18:05 Received
I can afford to play the long game Blair…can you????
2020-07-16 01:21:49 Received
There’s something really wrong with hoping I die from Covid 19 Blair…because it will cause our kids severe grief and that should matter more than the fact that I won’t garnish you anymore
2020-07-16 01:28:59 Received
I don’t wish you dead Blair I just wish you the best when you finally sort out this divorce once and for all and not on your terms because you fucked that up in December 2014
2020-07-16 01:30:11 Received
When you had the chance and couldn’t be bothered because why?????????!!!!!!?????
2020-07-16 01:44:34 Received
So you have Control and you get to live with the consequences NOW of dealing with this Divorce properly once and for all
2020-07-16 01:46:46 Received
Or not…because I know by now what a narcissistic prick you are and you only ever really care about yourself and that’s what you’re on your 4th girlfriend since we broke up because nobody is stupid enough to marry you like Me
2020-07-16 01:55:56 Received
I’m tired of this shit Blair. Your move. You have Control. Grow up and care about our kids and figure this out and call FMEP with at least a lump sum of $70,000.00 and let’s move on from this shitshow
2020-07-16 01:57:21 Received
FINAL OFFER WITHOUT PREDJUDICE
2020-07-16 07:04:58 Sent
34 texts. You just proved my point bitch. Don’t think anyone would miss you if you were gone.
And, so it goes. Imagine living with this screeching harpy for over two decades who dredges up every misadventure. Covid-19 has just greatly exacerbated her paranoia and general anger. It’s given her more ammunition, in her mind, to hate my guts.
It would be interesting to study the psychology of what’s gone so wrong with her mind and what role dealing with the virus has played.
Blair is a personification of a ‘Jack of All Trades and Master of None’. He has held several careers and has all the T-shirts. Time to add the title Blogger to the list.